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Tidur & waktu tidur

Why bedtime carries more weight than other routines

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Tidur & waktu tidur

The bedtime ritual that travels

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Tidur & waktu tidur

Same routine, two homes. How aligned should bedtimes really be?

7 menit baca

Tidur & waktu tidur

When your toddler won't go to sleep without you

7 menit baca

Tidur & waktu tidur

The comfort object that travels (and what to do when it doesn't)

8 menit baca

Tidur & waktu tidur

The 7pm vs 9pm bedtime. When parents disagree.

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Tidur & waktu tidur

The bedtime call. Should you call your child during their other-home nights?

8 menit baca

Tidur & waktu tidur

The night before a transition

7 menit baca

Tidur & waktu tidur

The 4am wake-up at your house

8 menit baca

Tidur & waktu tidur

Sleep regressions during the early weeks of separation

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Tidur & waktu tidur

Co-sleeping when one parent does and one doesn't

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Tidur & waktu tidur

Night terrors and what to tell your co-parent

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Tidur & waktu tidur

The school-age sleep slide

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Tidur & waktu tidur

Bedtime when there's a baby in one home

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Tidur & waktu tidur

The teenager who's up too late at the second home

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Tidur & waktu tidur

When bedtime stops being your job

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Tidur & waktu tidur

The bedtime that became a stand-in

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Tidur & waktu tidur

What your child's sleep is telling you

10 menit baca

Balita & latihan toilet

The two-house toddler routine that actually works

9 menit baca

Balita & latihan toilet

The two-house potty training plan

9 menit baca

Balita & latihan toilet

The 'I want my mummy' / 'I want my daddy' cry

8 menit baca

Balita & latihan toilet

When your toddler doesn't want to go

10 menit baca

Balita & latihan toilet

Toddler regression after separation

9 menit baca

Balita & latihan toilet

Toddler tantrums at the Relay

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Balita & latihan toilet

When potty training has different rules in each home

9 menit baca

Balita & latihan toilet

Daycare and the two-home reality

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Balita & latihan toilet

Pacifier, blanket, and the loved object

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Balita & latihan toilet

The 18-month-old who stops eating at the second home

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Balita & latihan toilet

Night-time potty training across two homes

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Balita & latihan toilet

The toddler vocabulary explosion

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Rutinitas usia sekolah

The morning routine that travels between homes

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Rutinitas usia sekolah

Homework. Who does what, where

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Rutinitas usia sekolah

The 'I forgot my thing' moment

7 menit baca

Rutinitas usia sekolah

The Friday folder problem

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Rutinitas usia sekolah

The lunchbox question

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Rutinitas usia sekolah

Reading records, homework diaries, signed slips

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Rutinitas usia sekolah

Parent-teacher meetings. Both, alternating, separate

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Rutinitas usia sekolah

The school trip. Permissions, payments, packing

7 menit baca

Rutinitas usia sekolah

The school illness. Who picks them up

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Rutinitas usia sekolah

The PE kit. The swim kit. The wet kit

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Rutinitas usia sekolah

The parent evening that fell on the wrong night

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Rutinitas usia sekolah

The school's communication channels. Apps, emails, texts

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Rutinitas usia sekolah

Screen time when the rules are different

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Rutinitas usia sekolah

The video game across two homes

7 menit baca

Rutinitas usia sekolah

The first phone. When and how

7 menit baca

Rutinitas usia sekolah

Online safety across two homes

8 menit baca

Rutinitas usia sekolah

Tutoring and after-school programmes

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Rutinitas usia sekolah

Weekend cultural and language schools

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Rutinitas usia sekolah

The sport, the music, the art class

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Rutinitas usia sekolah

The school holiday programme

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Rutinitas usia sekolah

The birthday party

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Rutinitas usia sekolah

The sleepover

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Rutinitas usia sekolah

The transition from primary to secondary school

8 menit baca

Rutinitas usia sekolah

The friend whose parents your Co-Parent doesn't like

7 menit baca

Rutinitas usia sekolah

The day the morning routine fell apart

7 menit baca

Rutinitas usia sekolah

The school-age child who's quietly carrying it

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Rutinitas usia sekolah

When school is the safest place

9 menit baca

Rutinitas usia sekolah

The teacher who knows

8 menit baca

Rutinitas usia sekolah

The Sunday afternoon dread

8 menit baca

Rutinitas usia sekolah

The school year that worked

8 menit baca

Rutinitas usia sekolah

What the school-age years asked of you

9 menit baca

Remaja, tingkah laku & ruang

When the schedule is no longer up to you

11 menit baca

Remaja, tingkah laku & ruang

The teen who doesn't want to go to one home

12 menit baca

Remaja, tingkah laku & ruang

Letting your teenager negotiate their own time

11 menit baca

Remaja, tingkah laku & ruang

When your teen confides in only one parent

12 menit baca

Remaja, tingkah laku & ruang

The phone, the privacy, the silence

11 menit baca

Remaja, tingkah laku & ruang

Curfews in two homes

11 menit baca

Remaja, tingkah laku & ruang

Mental health in the teenage years

12 menit baca

Remaja, tingkah laku & ruang

When your teen wants to live with the Co-Parent

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Remaja, tingkah laku & ruang

The exam season conversation

12 menit baca

Remaja, tingkah laku & ruang

Driving, alcohol, and the unsupervised hours

11 menit baca

Remaja, tingkah laku & ruang

The teen friend group your Co-Parent doesn't approve of

13 menit baca

Remaja, tingkah laku & ruang

Boyfriends, girlfriends, dating

11 menit baca

Remaja, tingkah laku & ruang

The teen who's parenting their younger siblings

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Remaja, tingkah laku & ruang

The school year that fell apart

12 menit baca

Remaja, tingkah laku & ruang

When your teen turns 18

11 menit baca

Remaja, tingkah laku & ruang

What the teen years taught you

11 menit baca

Remaja, tingkah laku & ruang

Self-harm. The warning signs and the response

14 menit baca

Remaja, tingkah laku & ruang

Eating disorders in the teen years

14 menit baca

Remaja, tingkah laku & ruang

When your teen is in crisis

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Remaja, tingkah laku & ruang

Sexuality and identity in the teen years

13 menit baca

Remaja, tingkah laku & ruang

Drug and alcohol use

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Remaja, tingkah laku & ruang

The teen relationship. The first big one

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Bicara dengan anak

Telling your child you're separating. The first conversation

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Bicara dengan anak

When your child asks why

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Bicara dengan anak

'Is it because of me?'

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Bicara dengan anak

'Do you still love Daddy?' / 'Do you still love Mummy?'

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Bicara dengan anak

How to talk to a 4-year-old about separation

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Bicara dengan anak

How to talk to an 8-year-old about separation

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Bicara dengan anak

How to talk to a teenager about separation

10 menit baca

Bicara dengan anak

Listening more than telling

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Bicara dengan anak

Talking about the new house

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Bicara dengan anak

When the child raises something hard

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Bicara dengan anak

When your child tells lies between homes

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Bicara dengan anak

The conversation about your Co-Parent's new partner

10 menit baca

Bicara dengan anak

The questions you can't answer

9 menit baca

Bicara dengan anak

What your child remembers

11 menit baca

Jadwal & rotasi

How to choose a schedule that works for your child

10 menit baca

Jadwal & rotasi

The 2-2-3 schedule

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Jadwal & rotasi

The week-on, week-off schedule

9 menit baca

Jadwal & rotasi

When to switch schedules

10 menit baca

Jadwal & rotasi

The 5-2-2-5 schedule

9 menit baca

Jadwal & rotasi

Schedules for infants

10 menit baca

Jadwal & rotasi

Schedules for toddlers

9 menit baca

Jadwal & rotasi

Schedules for school-age children

10 menit baca

Jadwal & rotasi

Schedules for teenagers

9 menit baca

Jadwal & rotasi

The Wednesday dinner pattern

7 menit baca

Jadwal & rotasi

When work doesn't fit the schedule

8 menit baca

Jadwal & rotasi

The schedule that's working but feels unfair

10 menit baca

Jadwal & rotasi

Holiday schedules

10 menit baca

Jadwal & rotasi

The summer holiday split

9 menit baca

Jadwal & rotasi

The midweek transition vs the weekend transition

9 menit baca

Jadwal & rotasi

When one parent travels for work

9 menit baca

Jadwal & rotasi

The schedule when grandparents help

8 menit baca

Jadwal & rotasi

The 6-month schedule review

8 menit baca

Jadwal & rotasi

The schedule that broke down

10 menit baca

Jadwal & rotasi

When you can't agree on a schedule

11 menit baca

Jadwal & rotasi

Living with a schedule you didn't want

10 menit baca

Uang & biaya bersama

How to split costs without keeping score

10 menit baca

Uang & biaya bersama

School fees, term by term

9 menit baca

Uang & biaya bersama

The big expenses vs the small ones

9 menit baca

Uang & biaya bersama

Medical and dental

8 menit baca

Uang & biaya bersama

The clothing budget

8 menit baca

Uang & biaya bersama

Birthday and holiday gifts

8 menit baca

Uang & biaya bersama

Activities and lessons

8 menit baca

Uang & biaya bersama

When one parent earns more

10 menit baca

Uang & biaya bersama

The 'I bought it, you reimburse' cycle

9 menit baca

Uang & biaya bersama

Receipts, records, and what to keep

7 menit baca

Uang & biaya bersama

The monthly expense review

9 menit baca

Uang & biaya bersama

When money becomes the recurring issue

10 menit baca

Uang & biaya bersama

Money in the older child years

11 menit baca

Komunikasi dengan orang tua satu lagi

The first principle. Tone over content.

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Komunikasi dengan orang tua satu lagi

The 24-hour rule

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Komunikasi dengan orang tua satu lagi

The message you send vs the message you wanted to send

9 menit baca

Komunikasi dengan orang tua satu lagi

The information-sharing minimum

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Komunikasi dengan orang tua satu lagi

WhatsApp, email, app. Choosing the channel.

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Komunikasi dengan orang tua satu lagi

When to reply, when not to

8 menit baca

Komunikasi dengan orang tua satu lagi

When your co-parent uses the children as messengers

9 menit baca

Komunikasi dengan orang tua satu lagi

Co-parenting as work, not friendship

10 menit baca

Komunikasi dengan orang tua satu lagi

The cold reply, the warm reply

8 menit baca

Komunikasi dengan orang tua satu lagi

The 'they always' trap

9 menit baca

Komunikasi dengan orang tua satu lagi

When your co-parent won't communicate

11 menit baca

Komunikasi dengan orang tua satu lagi

When you have to deliver bad news

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Komunikasi dengan orang tua satu lagi

Emergencies and the protocol

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Komunikasi dengan orang tua satu lagi

The conversation you need to have, in person

10 menit baca

Komunikasi dengan orang tua satu lagi

When new partners are involved in communication

10 menit baca

Komunikasi dengan orang tua satu lagi

The communication review

9 menit baca

Komunikasi dengan orang tua satu lagi

The boundary you forgot to set

11 menit baca

Komunikasi dengan orang tua satu lagi

When there's been a flare-up

10 menit baca

Komunikasi dengan orang tua satu lagi

The day you handled it well

8 menit baca

Mediasi & bantuan pihak ketiga

When to bring a mediator in

11 menit baca

Mediasi & bantuan pihak ketiga

Finding the right mediator

11 menit baca

Mediasi & bantuan pihak ketiga

The first session: what to expect

9 menit baca

Mediasi & bantuan pihak ketiga

The parental agreement as a mediation outcome

12 menit baca

Mediasi & bantuan pihak ketiga

Mediation vs. therapy vs. coaching

10 menit baca

Mediasi & bantuan pihak ketiga

When the lawyer needs to be involved

10 menit baca

Mediasi & bantuan pihak ketiga

Working with school counsellors

9 menit baca

Mediasi & bantuan pihak ketiga

The family doctor as quiet third party

8 menit baca

Mediasi & bantuan pihak ketiga

Cultural and religious counsel

11 menit baca

Mediasi & bantuan pihak ketiga

The third-party trap: when too many helpers becomes the problem

10 menit baca

Mediasi & bantuan pihak ketiga

When mediation isn't enough: the legal step

11 menit baca

Mediasi & bantuan pihak ketiga

When your Co-Parent declines third-party help

11 menit baca

Mediasi & bantuan pihak ketiga

Ending mediation well

9 menit baca

Mediasi & bantuan pihak ketiga

The third party you didn't expect

10 menit baca

Kesehatan & obat

Who calls the GP

10 menit baca

Kesehatan & obat

Medication. Doses, schedules, and the night-time switch

9 menit baca

Kesehatan & obat

When your child gets sick at your Co-Parent's

9 menit baca

Kesehatan & obat

Vaccinations and the consent question

10 menit baca

Kesehatan & obat

The asthma child, the chronic condition child

10 menit baca

Kesehatan & obat

The dentist, the optometrist, the regular check-ups

7 menit baca

Kesehatan & obat

Mental health support. Who organises, who pays

11 menit baca

Kesehatan & obat

The conversation with the doctor

9 menit baca

Kesehatan & obat

When health becomes the conflict

10 menit baca

Kesehatan & obat

The puberty conversation across two homes

10 menit baca

Kesehatan & obat

Periods and the 'Mum house' assumption

9 menit baca

Kesehatan & obat

Body image and the comparing parent

10 menit baca

Kesehatan & obat

Sex education across two homes

9 menit baca

Kesehatan & obat

Modesty, religion, and the body

12 menit baca

Pasangan baru & keluarga campuran

The 6-month rule. Why timing matters more than feeling ready

9 menit baca

Pasangan baru & keluarga campuran

When and how to introduce a new partner

11 menit baca

Pasangan baru & keluarga campuran

Your child meets your Co-Parent's new partner

9 menit baca

Pasangan baru & keluarga campuran

The new partner's role. What they shouldn't do

10 menit baca

Pasangan baru & keluarga campuran

When your child likes the new partner more than you

12 menit baca

Pasangan baru & keluarga campuran

The new partner who's better at it than you

6 menit baca

Pasangan baru & keluarga campuran

The boundary-setting conversation with a new partner

6 menit baca

Pasangan baru & keluarga campuran

Holidays, gifts, and the new family

6 menit baca

Pasangan baru & keluarga campuran

When a relationship ends: what to tell the children

6 menit baca

Jarak jauh & perjalanan

When the two homes aren't in the same city

11 menit baca

Jarak jauh & perjalanan

Video calls that work, by age

6 menit baca

Jarak jauh & perjalanan

School holidays as the main connection

6 menit baca

Jarak jauh & perjalanan

The long-haul flight visit

6 menit baca

Jarak jauh & perjalanan

When one parent moves abroad

7 menit baca

Jarak jauh & perjalanan

The cross-country move: the conversation

7 menit baca

Jarak jauh & perjalanan

The kid travelling alone

6 menit baca

Jarak jauh & perjalanan

The relationship across distance

6 menit baca

Tingkah laku & pengaturan emosi

Why your child is acting out

7 menit baca

Tingkah laku & pengaturan emosi

The Sunday night meltdown

10 menit baca

Tingkah laku & pengaturan emosi

When your child is suddenly angry all the time

6 menit baca

Tingkah laku & pengaturan emosi

The withdrawn child

6 menit baca

Tingkah laku & pengaturan emosi

Regression after a big change

5 menit baca

Tingkah laku & pengaturan emosi

When your child won't go to school

6 menit baca

Tingkah laku & pengaturan emosi

Anxiety in childhood

6 menit baca

Tingkah laku & pengaturan emosi

The aggressive child

6 menit baca

Tingkah laku & pengaturan emosi

The 'perfect' child

6 menit baca

Tingkah laku & pengaturan emosi

Lying, secrets, and the two-house child

6 menit baca

Tingkah laku & pengaturan emosi

The child who plays parents off each other

6 menit baca

Tingkah laku & pengaturan emosi

Bedtime fears

6 menit baca

Tingkah laku & pengaturan emosi

The fear of losing the other parent too

6 menit baca

Tingkah laku & pengaturan emosi

When you lose your temper

6 menit baca

Tingkah laku & pengaturan emosi

The 'wait until daddy gets here' pattern

5 menit baca

Tingkah laku & pengaturan emosi

What your child's behaviour is telling you

6 menit baca

Kehidupan emosi anak Anda

Your child is grieving too

10 menit baca

Kehidupan emosi anak Anda

The sad day

10 menit baca

Kehidupan emosi anak Anda

When your child idealises how things used to be

10 menit baca

Kehidupan emosi anak Anda

When your child blames themselves

10 menit baca

Kehidupan emosi anak Anda

When your child blames you

12 menit baca

Kehidupan emosi anak Anda

The child who won't talk about it

9 menit baca

Kehidupan emosi anak Anda

The therapy question

13 menit baca

Kehidupan emosi anak Anda

Anniversary reactions

6 menit baca

Kehidupan emosi anak Anda

When your child writes about it for school

6 menit baca

Kehidupan emosi anak Anda

When your child meets a friend whose parents aren't separated

6 menit baca

Kehidupan emosi anak Anda

Identity as a separated-family child

7 menit baca

Kehidupan emosi anak Anda

The 'why us' question

6 menit baca

Kehidupan emosi anak Anda

When your child seems too okay

6 menit baca

Kehidupan emosi anak Anda

What your child will remember about this year

6 menit baca

Disiplin, aturan & nilai

Different rules, same values

10 menit baca

Disiplin, aturan & nilai

The fun parent and the rules parent

10 menit baca

Disiplin, aturan & nilai

When you disagree on screen time

10 menit baca

Disiplin, aturan & nilai

When you disagree on bedtime

11 menit baca

Disiplin, aturan & nilai

When you disagree on food rules

11 menit baca

Disiplin, aturan & nilai

When you disagree on discipline approach

6 menit baca

Disiplin, aturan & nilai

The 'but daddy lets me' conversation

5 menit baca

Disiplin, aturan & nilai

Religious and moral values across homes

6 menit baca

Disiplin, aturan & nilai

Manners, respect, and family expectations

6 menit baca

Disiplin, aturan & nilai

Grandparent rules in the mix

6 menit baca

Disiplin, aturan & nilai

When permissive parenting concerns you

7 menit baca

Disiplin, aturan & nilai

What consistency actually means

6 menit baca

Kebutuhan khusus & neurodivergensi

When your child has been diagnosed

7 menit baca

Kebutuhan khusus & neurodivergensi

ADHD across two homes

6 menit baca

Kebutuhan khusus & neurodivergensi

Autism across two homes

6 menit baca

Kebutuhan khusus & neurodivergensi

Anxiety in childhood: the deeper version

5 menit baca

Kebutuhan khusus & neurodivergensi

Learning differences and the homework hour

6 menit baca

Kebutuhan khusus & neurodivergensi

Coordinating therapy and support across homes

6 menit baca

Kebutuhan khusus & neurodivergensi

School accommodations and support plans

6 menit baca

Kebutuhan khusus & neurodivergensi

When one parent doesn't accept the diagnosis

7 menit baca

Kebutuhan khusus & neurodivergensi

The months before diagnosis

6 menit baca

Kebutuhan khusus & neurodivergensi

Mental health in childhood

7 menit baca

Kebutuhan khusus & neurodivergensi

Sibling dynamics when one child has special needs

6 menit baca

Kebutuhan khusus & neurodivergensi

The exhausted parent of a special-needs child

6 menit baca

Saat orang tua yang lain sedang berjuang

When your co-parent doesn't show up

7 menit baca

Saat orang tua yang lain sedang berjuang

The cancelled weekend

6 menit baca

Saat orang tua yang lain sedang berjuang

Addiction in your co-parent

7 menit baca

Saat orang tua yang lain sedang berjuang

Mental illness in your co-parent

7 menit baca

Saat orang tua yang lain sedang berjuang

The disappearing parent

7 menit baca

Saat orang tua yang lain sedang berjuang

Parental alienation: recognising it in them, and in yourself

8 menit baca

Saat orang tua yang lain sedang berjuang

When your co-parent badmouths you to the children

7 menit baca

Saat orang tua yang lain sedang berjuang

When the child comes back unsettled or hurt

7 menit baca

Saat orang tua yang lain sedang berjuang

Documenting concerns

6 menit baca

Saat orang tua yang lain sedang berjuang

When to seek professional support

6 menit baca

Saat orang tua yang lain sedang berjuang

Limiting contact safely

7 menit baca

Saat orang tua yang lain sedang berjuang

The single-functional-parent reality

7 menit baca

Liburan & acara sekolah

The first big holiday after separation

6 menit baca

Liburan & acara sekolah

Birthday parties: yours, theirs, both

6 menit baca

Liburan & acara sekolah

School events: sports day, music recital, concerts

5 menit baca

Liburan & acara sekolah

Religious and cultural holidays in two homes

7 menit baca

Liburan & acara sekolah

Mother's Day, Father's Day

5 menit baca

Liburan & acara sekolah

Birthdays for the parent who's 'off'

5 menit baca

Liburan & acara sekolah

The school events your co-parent doesn't show up to

6 menit baca

Liburan & acara sekolah

The wedding, the funeral, the family gathering

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Why bedtime carries more weight than other routines

Sleep & bedtime · Modul 01

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It's evening. Your child has been in bed for twelve minutes. You can hear them shifting under the duvet. The hallway light is on. You're standing in the doorway, half in, half out. They've asked you to stay until they fall asleep, and you've said yes, and now you're here in the half-dark trying not to make a noise that would wake them up properly again.

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