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269 篇为分开生活的父母而写的内容，按主题、年龄、和你处在哪一个阶段来组织。建立在 Pauline Sam 方法之上。
按主题
十七个模块。
有的深、有的短。挑一个，今天合适的那一个。
睡眠与就寝
能在两个家之间走的睡前流程。
18 篇
幼儿与如厕训练
当成长的关键时刻发生在两个家之间。
12 篇
学龄期日常
早晨、功课、那个周五的文件夹。
31 篇
青少年的行为与自主
当日程不再只由你来定。
22 篇
和孩子谈话
没有彩排过的那些对话。
14 篇
日程与轮换
一周一换、2-2-3、以及之间的种种节奏。
21 篇
金钱与共同开销
平摊费用，不再彼此记账。
13 篇
和另一位父母沟通
语气、时机、和那些不必说出口的。
19 篇
调解与第三方协助
14 篇
健康与用药
预约、剂量、谁打电话给医生。
14 篇
新的伴侣与重组家庭
介绍、融入、慢慢来。
9 篇
异地与旅行
当两个家不在同一个城市。
8 篇
行为与情绪调节
当情绪从侧面冒出来。
16 篇
孩子的情绪世界
行为底下藏着什么。
14 篇
规矩、规则与价值
不一样的家，一样的期望。
12 篇
特殊需要与神经多样性
一个一周比别人需要更多的孩子。
12 篇
当另一位父母自己也撑不住的时候
当接力的另一边踉跄的时候。
12 篇
假期与学校活动
生日、表演会、以及它们之间的日子。
8 篇
按年龄
不管你身在哪一年。
269 篇
睡眠与就寝
Why bedtime carries more weight than other routines
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睡眠与就寝
The bedtime ritual that travels
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睡眠与就寝
Same routine, two homes. How aligned should bedtimes really be?
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睡眠与就寝
When your toddler won't go to sleep without you
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睡眠与就寝
The comfort object that travels (and what to do when it doesn't)
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睡眠与就寝
The 7pm vs 9pm bedtime. When parents disagree.
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睡眠与就寝
The bedtime call. Should you call your child during their other-home nights?
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睡眠与就寝
The night before a transition
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睡眠与就寝
The 4am wake-up at your house
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睡眠与就寝
Sleep regressions during the early weeks of separation
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睡眠与就寝
Co-sleeping when one parent does and one doesn't
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睡眠与就寝
Night terrors and what to tell your co-parent
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睡眠与就寝
The school-age sleep slide
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睡眠与就寝
Bedtime when there's a baby in one home
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睡眠与就寝
The teenager who's up too late at the second home
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睡眠与就寝
When bedtime stops being your job
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睡眠与就寝
The bedtime that became a stand-in
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睡眠与就寝
What your child's sleep is telling you
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幼儿与如厕训练
The two-house toddler routine that actually works
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幼儿与如厕训练
The two-house potty training plan
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幼儿与如厕训练
The 'I want my mummy' / 'I want my daddy' cry
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幼儿与如厕训练
When your toddler doesn't want to go
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幼儿与如厕训练
Toddler regression after separation
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幼儿与如厕训练
Toddler tantrums at the Relay
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幼儿与如厕训练
When potty training has different rules in each home
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幼儿与如厕训练
Daycare and the two-home reality
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幼儿与如厕训练
Pacifier, blanket, and the loved object
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幼儿与如厕训练
The 18-month-old who stops eating at the second home
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幼儿与如厕训练
Night-time potty training across two homes
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幼儿与如厕训练
The toddler vocabulary explosion
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学龄期日常
The morning routine that travels between homes
11 分钟阅读
学龄期日常
Homework. Who does what, where
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学龄期日常
The 'I forgot my thing' moment
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学龄期日常
The Friday folder problem
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学龄期日常
The lunchbox question
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学龄期日常
Reading records, homework diaries, signed slips
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学龄期日常
Parent-teacher meetings. Both, alternating, separate
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学龄期日常
The school trip. Permissions, payments, packing
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学龄期日常
The school illness. Who picks them up
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学龄期日常
The PE kit. The swim kit. The wet kit
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学龄期日常
The parent evening that fell on the wrong night
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学龄期日常
The school's communication channels. Apps, emails, texts
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学龄期日常
Screen time when the rules are different
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学龄期日常
The video game across two homes
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学龄期日常
The first phone. When and how
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学龄期日常
Online safety across two homes
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学龄期日常
Tutoring and after-school programmes
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学龄期日常
Weekend cultural and language schools
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学龄期日常
The sport, the music, the art class
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学龄期日常
The school holiday programme
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学龄期日常
The birthday party
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学龄期日常
The sleepover
7 分钟阅读
学龄期日常
The transition from primary to secondary school
8 分钟阅读
学龄期日常
The friend whose parents your Co-Parent doesn't like
7 分钟阅读
学龄期日常
The day the morning routine fell apart
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学龄期日常
The school-age child who's quietly carrying it
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学龄期日常
When school is the safest place
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学龄期日常
The teacher who knows
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学龄期日常
The Sunday afternoon dread
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学龄期日常
The school year that worked
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学龄期日常
What the school-age years asked of you
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青少年的行为与自主
When the schedule is no longer up to you
11 分钟阅读
青少年的行为与自主
The teen who doesn't want to go to one home
12 分钟阅读
青少年的行为与自主
Letting your teenager negotiate their own time
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青少年的行为与自主
When your teen confides in only one parent
12 分钟阅读
青少年的行为与自主
The phone, the privacy, the silence
11 分钟阅读
青少年的行为与自主
Curfews in two homes
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青少年的行为与自主
Mental health in the teenage years
12 分钟阅读
青少年的行为与自主
When your teen wants to live with the Co-Parent
14 分钟阅读
青少年的行为与自主
The exam season conversation
12 分钟阅读
青少年的行为与自主
Driving, alcohol, and the unsupervised hours
11 分钟阅读
青少年的行为与自主
The teen friend group your Co-Parent doesn't approve of
13 分钟阅读
青少年的行为与自主
Boyfriends, girlfriends, dating
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青少年的行为与自主
The teen who's parenting their younger siblings
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青少年的行为与自主
The school year that fell apart
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青少年的行为与自主
When your teen turns 18
11 分钟阅读
青少年的行为与自主
What the teen years taught you
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青少年的行为与自主
Self-harm. The warning signs and the response
14 分钟阅读
青少年的行为与自主
Eating disorders in the teen years
14 分钟阅读
青少年的行为与自主
When your teen is in crisis
13 分钟阅读
青少年的行为与自主
Sexuality and identity in the teen years
13 分钟阅读
青少年的行为与自主
Drug and alcohol use
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青少年的行为与自主
The teen relationship. The first big one
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和孩子谈话
Telling your child you're separating. The first conversation
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和孩子谈话
When your child asks why
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和孩子谈话
'Is it because of me?'
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和孩子谈话
'Do you still love Daddy?' / 'Do you still love Mummy?'
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和孩子谈话
How to talk to a 4-year-old about separation
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和孩子谈话
How to talk to an 8-year-old about separation
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和孩子谈话
How to talk to a teenager about separation
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和孩子谈话
Listening more than telling
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和孩子谈话
Talking about the new house
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和孩子谈话
When the child raises something hard
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和孩子谈话
When your child tells lies between homes
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和孩子谈话
The conversation about your Co-Parent's new partner
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和孩子谈话
The questions you can't answer
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和孩子谈话
What your child remembers
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日程与轮换
How to choose a schedule that works for your child
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日程与轮换
The 2-2-3 schedule
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日程与轮换
The week-on, week-off schedule
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日程与轮换
When to switch schedules
10 分钟阅读
日程与轮换
The 5-2-2-5 schedule
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日程与轮换
Schedules for infants
10 分钟阅读
日程与轮换
Schedules for toddlers
9 分钟阅读
日程与轮换
Schedules for school-age children
10 分钟阅读
日程与轮换
Schedules for teenagers
9 分钟阅读
日程与轮换
The Wednesday dinner pattern
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日程与轮换
When work doesn't fit the schedule
8 分钟阅读
日程与轮换
The schedule that's working but feels unfair
10 分钟阅读
日程与轮换
Holiday schedules
10 分钟阅读
日程与轮换
The summer holiday split
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日程与轮换
The midweek transition vs the weekend transition
9 分钟阅读
日程与轮换
When one parent travels for work
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日程与轮换
The schedule when grandparents help
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日程与轮换
The 6-month schedule review
8 分钟阅读
日程与轮换
The schedule that broke down
10 分钟阅读
日程与轮换
When you can't agree on a schedule
11 分钟阅读
日程与轮换
Living with a schedule you didn't want
10 分钟阅读
金钱与共同开销
How to split costs without keeping score
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金钱与共同开销
School fees, term by term
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金钱与共同开销
The big expenses vs the small ones
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金钱与共同开销
Medical and dental
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金钱与共同开销
The clothing budget
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金钱与共同开销
Birthday and holiday gifts
8 分钟阅读
金钱与共同开销
Activities and lessons
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金钱与共同开销
When one parent earns more
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金钱与共同开销
The 'I bought it, you reimburse' cycle
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金钱与共同开销
Receipts, records, and what to keep
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金钱与共同开销
The monthly expense review
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金钱与共同开销
When money becomes the recurring issue
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金钱与共同开销
Money in the older child years
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和另一位父母沟通
The first principle. Tone over content.
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和另一位父母沟通
The 24-hour rule
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和另一位父母沟通
The message you send vs the message you wanted to send
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和另一位父母沟通
The information-sharing minimum
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和另一位父母沟通
WhatsApp, email, app. Choosing the channel.
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和另一位父母沟通
When to reply, when not to
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和另一位父母沟通
When your co-parent uses the children as messengers
9 分钟阅读
和另一位父母沟通
Co-parenting as work, not friendship
10 分钟阅读
和另一位父母沟通
The cold reply, the warm reply
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和另一位父母沟通
The 'they always' trap
9 分钟阅读
和另一位父母沟通
When your co-parent won't communicate
11 分钟阅读
和另一位父母沟通
When you have to deliver bad news
10 分钟阅读
和另一位父母沟通
Emergencies and the protocol
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和另一位父母沟通
The conversation you need to have, in person
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和另一位父母沟通
When new partners are involved in communication
10 分钟阅读
和另一位父母沟通
The communication review
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和另一位父母沟通
The boundary you forgot to set
11 分钟阅读
和另一位父母沟通
When there's been a flare-up
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和另一位父母沟通
The day you handled it well
8 分钟阅读
调解与第三方协助
When to bring a mediator in
11 分钟阅读
调解与第三方协助
Finding the right mediator
11 分钟阅读
调解与第三方协助
The first session: what to expect
9 分钟阅读
调解与第三方协助
The parental agreement as a mediation outcome
12 分钟阅读
调解与第三方协助
Mediation vs. therapy vs. coaching
10 分钟阅读
调解与第三方协助
When the lawyer needs to be involved
10 分钟阅读
调解与第三方协助
Working with school counsellors
9 分钟阅读
调解与第三方协助
The family doctor as quiet third party
8 分钟阅读
调解与第三方协助
Cultural and religious counsel
11 分钟阅读
调解与第三方协助
The third-party trap: when too many helpers becomes the problem
10 分钟阅读
调解与第三方协助
When mediation isn't enough: the legal step
11 分钟阅读
调解与第三方协助
When your Co-Parent declines third-party help
11 分钟阅读
调解与第三方协助
Ending mediation well
9 分钟阅读
调解与第三方协助
The third party you didn't expect
10 分钟阅读
健康与用药
Who calls the GP
10 分钟阅读
健康与用药
Medication. Doses, schedules, and the night-time switch
9 分钟阅读
健康与用药
When your child gets sick at your Co-Parent's
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健康与用药
Vaccinations and the consent question
10 分钟阅读
健康与用药
The asthma child, the chronic condition child
10 分钟阅读
健康与用药
The dentist, the optometrist, the regular check-ups
7 分钟阅读
健康与用药
Mental health support. Who organises, who pays
11 分钟阅读
健康与用药
The conversation with the doctor
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健康与用药
When health becomes the conflict
10 分钟阅读
健康与用药
The puberty conversation across two homes
10 分钟阅读
健康与用药
Periods and the 'Mum house' assumption
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健康与用药
Body image and the comparing parent
10 分钟阅读
健康与用药
Sex education across two homes
9 分钟阅读
健康与用药
Modesty, religion, and the body
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新的伴侣与重组家庭
The 6-month rule. Why timing matters more than feeling ready
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新的伴侣与重组家庭
When and how to introduce a new partner
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新的伴侣与重组家庭
Your child meets your Co-Parent's new partner
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新的伴侣与重组家庭
The new partner's role. What they shouldn't do
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新的伴侣与重组家庭
When your child likes the new partner more than you
12 分钟阅读
新的伴侣与重组家庭
The new partner who's better at it than you
6 分钟阅读
新的伴侣与重组家庭
The boundary-setting conversation with a new partner
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新的伴侣与重组家庭
Holidays, gifts, and the new family
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新的伴侣与重组家庭
When a relationship ends: what to tell the children
6 分钟阅读
异地与旅行
When the two homes aren't in the same city
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异地与旅行
Video calls that work, by age
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异地与旅行
School holidays as the main connection
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异地与旅行
The long-haul flight visit
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异地与旅行
When one parent moves abroad
7 分钟阅读
异地与旅行
The cross-country move: the conversation
7 分钟阅读
异地与旅行
The kid travelling alone
6 分钟阅读
异地与旅行
The relationship across distance
6 分钟阅读
行为与情绪调节
Why your child is acting out
7 分钟阅读
行为与情绪调节
The Sunday night meltdown
10 分钟阅读
行为与情绪调节
When your child is suddenly angry all the time
6 分钟阅读
行为与情绪调节
The withdrawn child
6 分钟阅读
行为与情绪调节
Regression after a big change
5 分钟阅读
行为与情绪调节
When your child won't go to school
6 分钟阅读
行为与情绪调节
Anxiety in childhood
6 分钟阅读
行为与情绪调节
The aggressive child
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行为与情绪调节
The 'perfect' child
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行为与情绪调节
Lying, secrets, and the two-house child
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行为与情绪调节
The child who plays parents off each other
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行为与情绪调节
Bedtime fears
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行为与情绪调节
The fear of losing the other parent too
6 分钟阅读
行为与情绪调节
When you lose your temper
6 分钟阅读
行为与情绪调节
The 'wait until daddy gets here' pattern
5 分钟阅读
行为与情绪调节
What your child's behaviour is telling you
6 分钟阅读
孩子的情绪世界
Your child is grieving too
10 分钟阅读
孩子的情绪世界
The sad day
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孩子的情绪世界
When your child idealises how things used to be
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孩子的情绪世界
When your child blames themselves
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孩子的情绪世界
When your child blames you
12 分钟阅读
孩子的情绪世界
The child who won't talk about it
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孩子的情绪世界
The therapy question
13 分钟阅读
孩子的情绪世界
Anniversary reactions
6 分钟阅读
孩子的情绪世界
When your child writes about it for school
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孩子的情绪世界
When your child meets a friend whose parents aren't separated
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孩子的情绪世界
Identity as a separated-family child
7 分钟阅读
孩子的情绪世界
The 'why us' question
6 分钟阅读
孩子的情绪世界
When your child seems too okay
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孩子的情绪世界
What your child will remember about this year
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规矩、规则与价值
Different rules, same values
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规矩、规则与价值
The fun parent and the rules parent
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规矩、规则与价值
When you disagree on screen time
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规矩、规则与价值
When you disagree on bedtime
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规矩、规则与价值
When you disagree on food rules
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规矩、规则与价值
When you disagree on discipline approach
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规矩、规则与价值
The 'but daddy lets me' conversation
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规矩、规则与价值
Religious and moral values across homes
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规矩、规则与价值
Manners, respect, and family expectations
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规矩、规则与价值
Grandparent rules in the mix
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规矩、规则与价值
When permissive parenting concerns you
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规矩、规则与价值
What consistency actually means
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特殊需要与神经多样性
When your child has been diagnosed
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特殊需要与神经多样性
ADHD across two homes
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特殊需要与神经多样性
Autism across two homes
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特殊需要与神经多样性
Anxiety in childhood: the deeper version
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特殊需要与神经多样性
Learning differences and the homework hour
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特殊需要与神经多样性
Coordinating therapy and support across homes
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特殊需要与神经多样性
School accommodations and support plans
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特殊需要与神经多样性
When one parent doesn't accept the diagnosis
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特殊需要与神经多样性
The months before diagnosis
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特殊需要与神经多样性
Mental health in childhood
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特殊需要与神经多样性
Sibling dynamics when one child has special needs
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特殊需要与神经多样性
The exhausted parent of a special-needs child
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当另一位父母自己也撑不住的时候
When your co-parent doesn't show up
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当另一位父母自己也撑不住的时候
The cancelled weekend
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当另一位父母自己也撑不住的时候
Addiction in your co-parent
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当另一位父母自己也撑不住的时候
Mental illness in your co-parent
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当另一位父母自己也撑不住的时候
The disappearing parent
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当另一位父母自己也撑不住的时候
Parental alienation: recognising it in them, and in yourself
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当另一位父母自己也撑不住的时候
When your co-parent badmouths you to the children
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当另一位父母自己也撑不住的时候
When the child comes back unsettled or hurt
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当另一位父母自己也撑不住的时候
Documenting concerns
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当另一位父母自己也撑不住的时候
When to seek professional support
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当另一位父母自己也撑不住的时候
Limiting contact safely
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当另一位父母自己也撑不住的时候
The single-functional-parent reality
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假期与学校活动
The first big holiday after separation
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假期与学校活动
Birthday parties: yours, theirs, both
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假期与学校活动
School events: sports day, music recital, concerts
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假期与学校活动
Religious and cultural holidays in two homes
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假期与学校活动
Mother's Day, Father's Day
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假期与学校活动
Birthdays for the parent who's 'off'
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假期与学校活动
The school events your co-parent doesn't show up to
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假期与学校活动
The wedding, the funeral, the family gathering
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“It's evening. Your child has been in bed for twelve minutes. You can hear them shifting under the duvet. The hallway light is on. You're standing in the doorway, half in, half out. They've asked you to stay until they fall asleep, and you've said yes, and now you're here in the half-dark trying not to make a noise that would wake them up properly again.”
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最新加入
最近的六篇。
- 睡眠与就寝8 分钟
Why bedtime carries more weight than other routines
- 睡眠与就寝7 分钟
The bedtime ritual that travels
- 睡眠与就寝7 分钟
Same routine, two homes. How aligned should bedtimes really be?
- 睡眠与就寝7 分钟
When your toddler won't go to sleep without you
- 睡眠与就寝8 分钟
The comfort object that travels (and what to do when it doesn't)
- 睡眠与就寝8 分钟
The 7pm vs 9pm bedtime. When parents disagree.